How to deal with your friend
How to deal with a friend
Acting as a Positive Friend
Behaving positively with a friend depends on several things,
including the following:
The unpleasant things of the soul are not acceptable to the
righteous: A person treats his friend just as he likes to be treated, so that
he helps himself to a better balance between himself and another, and good for
his friends as he pleases them to be good to him. A friend cannot be an angel
walking on earth, sometimes making a mistake, or doing something embarrassing.
So it is important to stop and think about how a person wishes to be treated,
when he makes a mistake about someone, or how he will feel if someone ridicules
him when he is embarrassed.
Treat Nicely: Some friends know how important they are to
each other. It is better to tell them the truth, so that the person tells his
friend the amount of his love, his appreciation, and the praise he receives for
him. It is okay to praise the friend, compliment him, and thank him constantly,
as this will make him happy, and always take into consideration reassurance
over him. This friend may be going through bad times, which requires asking for
him and his condition, standing by his side, trying to support him as much as
possible, raising his spirits, understanding the circumstances he is going
through, the amount of his suffering, and caring for his problem. A friend can
be asked about his need for help in time of distress, without waiting for him
to ask for it himself.
Loyalty to the Friend: A sincere friend believes the words of
his friend, directs them to the right thing, supports them in good and bad
times, listens to them when they need to speak, and does not surprise them,
even if they are upset, then to gossip about them behind their back only hurts
their feelings, and ruins their friendship with them.
Spending time with a friend
The agenda is crowded with most people. Every person has a
busy life, but not taking time to communicate with a friend results in a loss
for him. Therefore, maintaining a friendship can require staying in touch,
despite the great efforts that the two friends will make. A friend deserves
time and effort, and a continuous communication with him can be maintained,
through phone calls, e-mails, or meeting with him personally, such as: I
invited him to events, parties, meals, coffee drinking, having fun activities
together, and considering his treatment as someone who has an important place
in his friend's heart.
Communicate effectively
There are a number of ways you can communicate effectively
with a friend.
Listening Well: A friend listens to his friend actively by
focusing on what he is saying, understanding it, and can resort to body
language, to show good listening, by looking directly at his eyes, and sitting
opposite him, so that the body is pointing at him, and making his facial
expressions similar to his facial expressions.
Resolving Differences: The disagreement with the friend can
be resolved effectively by being calm, reflecting on the events and mistakes
that took place, and taking into account not speaking about the feelings of
anger and discomfort on social media sites, as the anger will eventually
disappear, after which a meeting with the friend can be arranged, talking about
the matter calmly, and sharing the feelings of both parties, taking into
account the understanding of the friend's position and point of view.
Tips for dealing with a friend
There are a number of tips for dealing with a friend better,
including these:
- Maintaining personal boundaries in a friendship relationship, respecting it, such as taking into account the times of communication, not expecting an immediate response to messages, and not complaining about it on a permanent and continuous basis, is normal, but not exaggerated, as it has a negative impact on the long-term friendship.
- In addition, we listen in depth to his words and refrain from dealing with a number of matters, such as mocking him, interrupting his conversation, and asking him a lot of questions as if he were in an interrogation session, listening selectively to him, and engaging in other matters while he was with him.
- Get to know a friend better by attending his/her events, such as: his birthday, or wedding, as well as meeting people close to him in his life, such as: Family members, other friends.
- Not clinging too much to a friend, giving him enough space, as he has a life of his own, responsibilities on his shoulders, it is impossible for his world to revolve around his friends only.
- To gain a friend's trust and build a true relationship with him by sharing and exchanging him some personal things, such as what a person loves, what he doesn't like, and the ambitions he wants to achieve in the future. This is in addition to keeping promises with him, keeping his secrets and not telling anyone about his private matters.
- If a person does not compare himself to his positive friend, it leads to feelings of frustration, constant search for the friend's faults, or negative judgment. It is better to feel content, satisfaction with life, look at the good qualities in a friend, and wish him well and success.
- Not criticizing the friend, or blaming him for mistakes, so that the person believes he is always right, and that every mistake has been made by his friend.
- Spend time with a friend, or call him to enjoy his company, not just when something specific is needed.
- Confess a mistake against a friend when it is committed, and apologize to him.
- Sharing his joys and expressing joy with the friend, through his facial expressions, as well as saying it explicitly to him, such as saying he is happy for him.
The Importance of Friendship
True friends have a great influence on their personal lives.
Rapprochement with them helps reduce stress and pressures on their lives. In
addition, they have a positive influence on the maturity of their
personalities. Some friends are good role models to be followed by all who
accompany them.
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